Every year I try to plan 2 short vacations with my husband away from the kids and the routine. So far, during our 10 years of marriage, we have had good, bad and ugly trips.
I mean… I love my husband and I love vacationing but mixing these two together sometimes can be very stressful. Regardless the ups and downs we’ve always managed to survive and, as a matter of fact, every time we travel I learn something new about our relationship and about us. So, here is my 10 years of experience condensed into 4 practical tips to help you travel with your significant other.
1. BE WILLING TO COMPROMISE
You know yourself and your husband, so be aware (even before booking your trip) of the kind of experience each of you will have on this new or frequent destination. If your husband likes to explore and get active during his vacation time and you happen to book 10 days in an all-inclusive resort in Punta Cana (just like I did) understand that he will get bored after 24 hours unless you join him on some exciting water sports activity, a city tour or a special date in a casino nearby.
2. FIND TIME TO BE ALONE
Life can be hectic. Kids, jobs, family and friends are constantly fighting to get our attention and usually we don’t take care of our own needs. I think vacation is the perfect time to unwind and reflect about our life and personal goals. Spend some time by yourself during your vacation to write, meditate, read a book or work out. Don’t be afraid to ask for some privacy, I’m sure your husband will appreciate it too.
3. GET REAL
Unless you are from a different planet (and I know a lot of Martian couples) at one point or another you are going to argue with your husband but that doesn’t mean the trip was ruined. Things don’t have to be picture perfect to be just perfect. In my experience when you have been together for such a long time these types of getaways are more about connection than romance. I mean a good quiet candle light dinner helps anybody to connect (don’t get me wrong) but a very honest conversation at lunch helps, too. So if you happen to argue, use this time away to talk about it. Sometimes a different setting, a different environment or a good cocktail can give you a whole new perspective about an old issue.
4. BE PREPARE TO THE UNEXPECTED
Just like if you are traveling with kids, be prepared before hand for the unexpected. If you easily adapt to new circumstances and are really patient don’t worry about it, but if you or your husband (or both of you like in my case) have a short fuse, then plan ahead for the possible inconvenience. Talk about it before, what would you do if the flight gets delayed, if they cancel your hotel reservation or if you get sick? Find ways to distract each other from the downs of the trip and ways to keep the energy up during your time away.
These are only the first four things that came to my mind, but I’m sure there are more techniques to save your marriage from the pitfalls of vacationing. Please share your secrets with us! 😉